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CHILDHOOD TRAUMA.​​

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For many decades, the psychology of human development and social psychology have come to the conclusion that childhood, without a doubt, is the most critical period in the life cycle of human development and what can happen during that moment is what will condition the An individual's emotional life throughout his existence can even hinder interpersonal relationships and make him incapable of coping with problems in adulthood.

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It is a fact then that a stressful psychosocial environment that is full of frequent conflicts, as happens in a dysfunctional and unstructured family, where there is violence or lack of emotional care, leave marks on a child that they will carry throughout their lives._cc781905-5cde- 3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_

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Among those childhood traumas that mark adult life, the following can be mentioned as the most common:

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• Divorce of the parents, abandonment or loss of any of the significant figures for the childIn this sense, if at home, there was a lack of attachment, they never paid due attention or ignored their emotional needs, it would create a resentful, dependent and fearful adult future of loneliness.

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• Having suffered humiliating abuse and mistreatment, turns children into future adults with a tendency to underestimate their own needs in order to please others and earn their love, approval and respect, so as an adult, it will be difficult for them to accept themselves and they will hesitate many times to make decisions.

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• Rejection during childhood, this affects their feeling of belonging and social approval in adulthood, which implies an evident dismissal of their own thoughts, feelings and experiences, repudiation of their self-esteem and even that of others.

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• betrayal in childhood, with what it will lead to in the future, an adult with attitudes of wanting to control everything, wanting to isolate himself from others, being defensive and not trusting anyone.

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• injustice in childhood, it happens that when there are so many differences, inequalities and constant demands during childhood, what is generated are feelings of inefficiency and uselessness, creating emotionally rigid and inexpressive future adults, in addition to demonstrating an exaggerated importance to beliefs and values, are subjects who end up expressing their opinions and moral judgments as if they were absolute truths.

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In all this, we have also unconsciously learned as children, to forge masks that we show  publicly, only for the great fear that we may not be appreciated or accepted as we really are, however, To learn to show our authenticity, reconnect with our feelings and express any emotion freely, psychotherapeutic help is important without forgetting that despite having been victimized as children, we do not necessarily have to continue to be as adults.